MsTequilas (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

lovely song :)

MusicForAries (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

@MusicForAries Also to elaborate on why he's shallow; Caroline says "I guess we'll never meet", and the lines "I thought I saw you, I thought you saw me.." shows that he did show up, saw her, then took off. If it was her emotional baggage, he would've never shown up to begin with. The ending line of "Is it you or me?" really shows sympathy to Caroline was well, asking, "who is it to blame for this sadness? you or me?"

MusicForAries (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

I just heard this song for the first time, but it really struck me hard because I think "heavy" is actually used in both terms for this song; physically and mentally heavy. When Caroline says "heavy", she means emotional baggage. In canon, this may be because of her looks, her self-esteem, her loneliness, loss, etc. She strives to get past her emotional "heavy" and reach out to someone else to grasp hope and love, and only finds a shallow close-minded man who ditches her for a physical "heavy".

wendel747400 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

I see allot of people responding in a way that he stood her up. Probably because she is not to pretty. But she said she would send a photograph so he knew what to espect. My theory is that he got cold feet of her emotional bagage not her physical.

SoraKumiko (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

This song got to my heart. I feel both of their pain.

carebear2232 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

wow I think you guys are right. This entire time I saw it as one way. He's insensative, how could he do that to her? Things like that, but really, how could he do that to himself? wow this song already opened my eyes, but looking at it like that just makes me more aware I think. Kudos to Stars.

ice1984 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

i dont understand

RachylLush (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

You know, I'm not so much sure that's he's shallow. The very end of the song, he adds to his original "wanted" bio, saying "Nothing too heavy" which, I think he's just not ready to start a new relationship with someone so emotionally unstable, which is understandable. Although, in another sense, it could be a mixture of being shallow and not wanting a needy, emotional person in his life. Perhaps he was scared of something new, but either way this song is heart breaking and very easy to relate.

einsteinslies (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Heavy shit here, folks.

DayDreamBeliever87 (November 30, 1999 at 12:00 am)

Not that it matters, because it's a beautiful song and everyone cant get what they want from it...but I don't think he left because she was unattractive. She sent him a picture before their aborted date. He knew what she looked like and he still showed up anyway. I think he just couldn't force himself to up to her. He already said "these things can be scary". Relationships, especially new ones, are scary...I think both characters are feeling damaged and "heavy" and just can't bridge the gap.